I know that a huge % of people here wouldn't take funding from VCs.
But let's say that you could dictate the conditions under which you'd take funding. Say someone offered you $100k and said: "We do this on your own terms". What would your terms be?
Whenever accepting the fund is a better financial decision than not accepting it.
It can get very pricy and complicated to do custom terms... and you generally don't have the upper hand there
I'd recommend going with one of -> https://www.ycombinator.com/documents